David Schnarch. · Rating details · 2, ratings · reviews. Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed In Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch organizes fourteen chapters into three . Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch, Ph. D. Norton, pp. ISBN

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Also, all of the examples he uses of him doing therapy and from his marriage also come across and self satisfied and self congratulatory BS. I would say though that there are a number of other books I would recommend that focus on these concepts without having to put yourself through reading this particular book: So a lot of the people I see are on the verge of divorce.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch

Books by David Schnarch. It isn’t about how to improve your intimate sexual relationship by trying this or doing that – there is NONE of that in this book; it is about growing up, developing integrity, and ultimately improving intimacy itself with your partner. I’m so thankful I found it now, because I will be growing upon this foundation for the rest of my life.

But those who are okay with frank sexual conversation will scunarch find a lot of very valuable information about how to create more satisfying marriagge relationships in this book. When we do our work, we often talk about “integrity” in the Crucible Approach. You’re standing up for yourself. Why did this have to happen to me? Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. View all 3 comments. And that, much to my chagrin, pushes me to acknowledge what I have not been up to now.

Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship. I’m also recommending it to every person I know who is ready to make improvements in ALL of their relationships–including their relationships with their self. Meaning, at some point in your ovulatory cycle, you experience some biological increment in sexual drive. You’ll learn something about yourself and how you walk in the world. However, he tends with a few exceptions to selectively uses female pronouns for what would be considered weak or needy roles within a relatinoship.


If that’s the case, then we’re poorly differentiated, and we’re not only going to get our feelings hurt, we’re going to withdrawal from each other and we’re going to have a lousy relationship—presuming we stay together. They have a child with cerebral palsy and they often go through the feelings of, “I wish I had a different kid.

And then [you develop] more integrity, and then keeping that integrity intact is about keeping your sense of self intact. Buy the selected items together This item: You have to have meaningful endurance to get to the other side, to get to sense of peace. I didn’t complete the final two chapters because everything had become too redundant for me.

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Read more Read less. I stopped reading shortly after mqrriage as the quality of the book and the extent of the author’s ego threatened to negate anything useful he had to say in the beginning. When I help couples have better sex, most people think at first that [they have to go] to a gym or [get] a trapeze and [do] athletic maneuvers, but the best sex that people ever have really is about finally having peace.

To really understand the connection, davud have to understand the natural ecology of sexual relationships.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

But my scope, my heart, my life, my sense of loving and living, grew and grew, and we grew into the most passionate of marriages.

That makes the relationship rigid.

I have to say that our daughter is probably one of the most deliberately conceived children in the human race. Passionate Marriage helped me understand exactly how this can happen. I can not recommend it enough. Or your child gets ill.

So, for instance, one rule in emotionally committed relationships is that sexual relationships always consist of leftovers. The ability to regulate your own emotional life. But of course it wasn’t. For instance, differentiation is an abstract concept and I know that when you start talking about that, people scratch their head and when I do interviews with reporters and I talk about differentiation, you can watch their eyes glaze over.


We use cookies to give you the best possible experience. So this is also differentiation because while you’re standing there, you’ve got to calm yourself down.

And when you find that, you guys think, you guys were made in heaven. To see what davif friends thought of this book, please sign up. Number one, let’s broaden out the kind of people that I get to see so that the listening audience will then understand the real meaning of the answer that I’m going to give you. Traditionally, therapists have talked about three drives of sexual desire: Learn more about Amazon Giveaway.

You have got to take care of your heart because people say difficult things when they’re uncomfortable. He states initially in his preface to this edition that there is nothing that he would change about the original writing of the book which just begs readers to pick it apart. My reaction to maeriage book is very mixed. They just matriage in each other’s presence.

Dr Schnarch is a sex therapist, but this material address the entire marital relationship. One of the things that I have learned through my years of therapy that has really made me hold strongly to a differentiation-based approach, as opposed to an attachment-based approach, is the realization that basic decency is not something that we can take for granted.

You said, “Human beings like monogamy” and I had a moment where I thought, well, is that true?